Coping with the Loss of a Pet

Coping with the loss a pet is a very difficult – the grieving process takes time and it is often a very lonely journey. Dr. Susan Wheeler, facilitator for the Pet Loss Group in Las Vegas shared some of the questions that seem to be unanswered for people who lose a pet:  Why did my pet leave?  How can I face the day and move forward?   How can I handle life without my beloved friend?  Where can I find solace and help?

Here are some suggestions from Dr. Wheeler to help you through the grieving process:

WRITE A JOURNAL
Many people have found solace from writing in a daily journal. For example, you can say your good-byes or share whatever else is in your heart.

YOUR PET’S BELONGINGS
Only put away your pet’s belongings when you feel it is the right time. It is your choice and you may never want to put the articles away.

ALLOW SAD MOMENTS
Please allow the sad moments and tears to come. Tears are cleansing and will help you heal. The emptiness and hole in your heart will always be there but you will be able to move forward with your other life commitments.

HONOR YOUR PET
It is important to remember your pet on special days such as your pet’s birthday or adoption, holidays, or other family events. These events are called triggers and are reminders that your pet is no longer there on special events. In spite of the sadness, it is important to find ways to honor your pet on these special occasions.

BE CREATIVE
Make a display of your pet’s photos or other items. Creating a photo album or slide presentation of your pet’s life is helpful. Some people have created shadow boxes or scrapbooks.

IN TIME…
Consider walking or caring for a friend’s pet, volunteering at an animal shelter, or becoming a foster pet parent.

WHEN YOU ARE READY…
Begin to accept invitations from others for coffee or lunch. Remember, however, your friends and relatives mean well but may give unwarranted advice such as: it was only a cat;  you have another pet so you should be all right; I bought you a replacement pet.

CONSIDER A SUPPORT GROUP
As you move through the grieving process please know that you are not alone in your grief and sadness. There is help and support for you.

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